“I want to be a safe place for my children. I want them to see that my arms are open and I love them no matter what they do. I want them to have confidence that their mama is on their team, whether they spill a glass of milk and break my favorite mug, or whether they scream at their sibling with harsh words, or whether they get out of bed fifty times, or whether they lie to me about something. I’m still on their team. I get them. I am them. We are all a work in progress.”I do get my boys and why they sin. I do. I sin every single day. When my husband has sin struggles, why should I not expect my boys to have them? Maybe part of my frustration is that I am expecting perfection when I should be expecting progress from my boys, my husband and myself. No, I’m not demanding or begging for no mistakes or slip ups, but in my mind, I think my dreams of how things should be are flawed. Spills, sibling rivalry, attitudes and just plain hard days are inevitable. They happen often and we need to be ready to love in the middle of it all. Even when it's hard.
“Many moms have entered the battlefield of motherhood and are totally unprepared, untrained, and ill-equipped for the job. I know I was. And many have not understood that the home is a battlefield where sin and selfishness must be overcome, and that the taming, subduing, and civilization of a home will be to a women’s honor.” (page 43)What am I missing? Grace and love. I need Jesus! I need Him to give me HIS strength to do this wonderful work called motherhood. I need Him to give me the grace to love my family like I should. I need Him to equip me for conquering battles in my home and to give me the abundant grace only He can give. I am a limited human being. I cannot do this on my own, no matter how hard I might try. But, God with us is way more than enough. Give Him your flaws and shortcomings. Like the widow who only had a little oil (2 Kings 4) and Elisha asked her too fill up many pots. She collected the pots and obeyed what he’d asked her to do knowing what she had to give was not enough. God did a miracle that day and the pots were full with an abundance she was given to pay off the debts she owed. I believe that’s what God wants from us. For us to be obedient and to give Him all we have and He’ll do the rest. Step one for me? Repentance and forgiveness. Dealing first with my sweet Savior and asking Him to once again forgive me for my sin. Then, asking my boys to forgive me as well. Don’t skip it, no matter how they respond. No just, “Sorry guys!” but, “Will you forgive me for (fill in the blanks)?” Being obedient and doing what God asks us to do in His word is vital. It also teaches our kids to ask forgiveness when they wrong someone else. I will mess up and stumble. I won’t get this down pat and move on to perfect parenting. No. I know that I’ll take two steps forward and one step back, but I will keep trying, begging God for help and knowing I can trust Him to help me! ASK! Ask Him for help. The key to all of this in my life and yours is that we can’t do it on our own. We are enough with Christ to accomplish any task He asks of us. YOU are enough with CHRIST to do anything He asks of you! Even to love the legos, the newest picture drawn, the animal skins and the newest fishing lure. He can help us love these kids as we should, like He first loved us.
“We live in a fallen world, so things will always tend toward disorder, children will always cry, and you will always sin, but God gives you grace and the Holy Spirit to make it through. When life tends toward disorder, go straight to God and ask Him for His grace to walk in the Holy Spirit.” (page 51)This is real life, hashing things out with my Lord as I go. Maybe you are hashing it out in the trenches along side me? This battlefield called motherhood is so worth it if we gain our strength from the Lord. He never said it would be easy, but He said He would be right here with us. This post was shared on Raising Homemakers! Check them out for many great articles on homeschooling, recipes and motherhood.
Definitely with you, hashing it out in the trenches. So much of what you posted is where I feel God leading me. Keep on keeping on, sister!
🙂 Right there with you! <3
So beautifully worded and a wonderful reminder that I need to be interested in what my kids are interested in. Time with my kids is precious, they will be grown before I know it. Thank you for the reminder to be present.
Be present. Good thoughts!
Good word! Thank you ☺
I loved this. WOW! Powerful. Thank you for sharing your heart and I believe all mommies need to read this.
Great post. Going to go share with my mom friends right now on facebook.
I love that book Desperate! I’m going to pull it out again. Thanks for the reminder